By Amy Edmison
Edited By Alex Sina
Have you ever been around someone who makes you feel uncomfortable? Stands really close? Smells really bad? Instead of avoiding them, try addressing it the way a person with Aspergers would.
People with Aspergers Syndrome want you to be honest and direct. If you’re uncomfortable around someone with Aspergers, they may not be aware there’s a problem. People with AS are normally unaware if they are making someone uncomfortable, and it’s not their fault. Subtle hints and body language are often lost on them. If you want someone with Aspergers to give you some distance, all you have to do is say so. In other words, be honest!
In today’s society we’re so worried about hurting someone’s feelings, but if you don’t tell someone what’s wrong they won’t be aware there’s a problem. There is a difference between being honest and being rude. Webster’s dictionary describes honesty as fairness and straightforwardness of conduct. Rudeness is defined as lacking refinement or delicacy.
If you are being honest, you don’t have to be rude. If someone smells bad, ask if they forgot their deodorant. This phrasing is much more positive than an insult and lets them resolve the problem.
A person with Aspergers will always be the friend that tells you that you have something in your teeth. Some people will be insulted by the truth and claim that you are being rude. It’s not uncommon for words to be twisted or misunderstood. If this happens, try to clarify your intentions and then move on.
If you are in an awkward situation, remember that honesty is key. People with Aspergers Syndrome will be grateful that you’re being honest with them. As long as you are tactful, rudeness can be avoided and both parties can benefit.